Most couples avoid discussing divorce for several reasons. After all, divorce can cause regret, failure, disappointment, and stress. It can be stressful as you go through an expensive and lengthy legal process, move out of your home, renegotiate your role as a co-parent, divide up your social network and the list goes on.
Therefore, many couples try to make their relationship work till the very end. However, the problem is that some relationships can be damaged beyond repair. The long you remain there, the more everyone involved may suffer.
Here are some reasons you may want to consider divorcing your partner.
Physical and Emotional Abuse
Physical and emotional abuse is a major cause of divorce. Emotional abuse includes guilt trips and name-calling. Emotionally abusing a spouse may go unnoticed. Some couples stay married, believing they can tolerate emotional abuse. However, it is time to consider that leaving an abusive marriage is healthier.
Abuse often starts slowly and may become so severe that divorce is the only solution. If you want to divorce, get a family law attorney to represent you. They can help you be sure about your decision and gather the needed evidence.
One spouse misusing drugs is another major reason to divorce. Substance abuse can lead to neglecting responsibilities and spending too much money on drugs, whether the spouse started abusing prescription drugs or recreational drugs.
Substance abusers often deny their problem, which leads to divorce being your only way out. Drug or alcohol dependence may cause the person to neglect their connection. Hence, you may feel disconnected enough to part ways with such a person.
Incompatibility with your spouse is another reason to divorce. While irreconcilable differences are a top reason for divorce, sometimes couples have too many differences to overcome. General incompatibility may be caused by factors such as religious differences, sexual discord, and much more.
Some couples could live with their spouses and embrace the differences. However, effective marriages involve common priorities and interests. Therefore, it is important to consider if both partners are willing to put in the work to make a marriage work.
Financial troubles can strain the marriage to the point of irreparability. If money-related concerns cause continuous disagreements, it may indicate that you and your partner may never agree on finances. Incompatibility usually occurs when one partner needs to shop in secret.
If you set financial objectives together, but one spouse keeps spending money in a way that makes them unattainable, the same applies. One spouse may hesitate to set financial objectives due to overspending. Financial disagreements can strain a marriage, so it’s best to agree with your partner.
If you’re not financially compatible with your spouse, a low combined income makes it more likely that you’ll struggle to pay bills or rent, which might escalate disagreements. If you want to divorce, you can base it on reasons from poor communication to a lack of trust after betrayal.